There are so many times throughout our lives that change is feared. I would say, more times than not, our fear will completely take over. We decide to ignore and then we eventually became complacent. However, we are meant for so much more in life than to just be sedentary. God wants us to know our worth and love life to the fullest.
So, why is change feared? Why do we let our fear get in the way of change taking place?
There are a ton of reasons that change is feared and it would be impossible for me to address all of them.
A big reason, that I would say is pretty universal, is being set in a particular comfort zone that we have no intention of leaving. This comfort zone is what we’ve gotten so used to that we have convinced ourselves that it’s necessary. We have convinced ourselves this is what happy looks like. We have convinced ourselves this is the only way to survive. More than anything else we don’t see how there is any other way to live.
When I speak of a comfort zone, I realize it will look different for everyone. Maybe your comfort zone is the relationship with a family member or members, a friend or friends, or a group you are part of. Maybe its a lifestyle that you have been struggling with. The list goes on.
Also, it probably doesn’t matter to you that your comfort zone has been and is toxic to your well being. Number one because this is where you are and where you want to stay. Number two, because you don’t see it as such. You dont see it as toxic. You are fine. Why is everyone saying I need help? Why can’t everyone see that I’m good? I’m fine and happy with where I am.
The mere thought of having to turn away is scary. So scary its exhausting just thinking about changing. Its a mountain way too high to climb. Absolutely Insurmountable…. If I could just see for a minute what things look like on the other side then maybe I’d think about it. How do I know things will be better? Whose going to climb it with me? How can I possibly even take the first step?
Well, for starters, You should not be afraid and think that you are ever alone because you are not. God has been, is and will be with you always. It doesnt matter where you go or what you’re doing. He is there right beside you.
As the song, by Marvin Gaye, says it most perfectly. (Replace ‘baby’ with your name) Think of it as God talking to you.
Ain't no mountain high
Ain't no valley low,
Ain't no river wide enough, baby
If you need me, call me,
No matter where you are
No matter how far,
Don't worry, baby
Just call my name, I'll be there in a hurry
You don't have to worry
'Cause baby, there ain't no mountain high enough
Ain't no valley low enough,
Ain't no river wide enough
To keep me from getting to you, baby" - excerpt from "Aint No Mountain High Enough" by Marvin Gaye
Second of all, it’s going to suck. Hey, I’m just being honest here. Let’s not sugarcoat things and make it out to be all cupcakes and rainbows. Will it be hard? Yes. Will it be one of, if not, THE hardest thing you do in your life? Possibly. Are the chances high that you will fall? Very. So, then, what is the point? Why should you go through what sounds like a living hell?
Because, YOU DESERVE IT! You deserve the life on the other side of the mountain. You deserve to find YOUR path and to pave it. And do you know what else? It’s all going to be OK!
Change… Good change… necessary change… allows for grace and creates a new life!
Think about this way…
All those mistakes or experiences made on the old path, be it decisions or actions, are the seeds for what will blossom on the new path. You dont ever completely lose those experiences. You carry them with you not as burdens but rather as reminders of what used to be and how far you’ve come. I like to think of them as these beautiful blossoming flowers and trees all along your new path constantly growing new life. They help you appreciate where you are, your path, that much more.
The process; the bridge in between is where one receives the sack to carry all of those seeds, the mistakes or experiences. The sack is purely a gift; grace. Grace is given to us from our God above. Without God’s grace none of this is possible.
The thing is you have to go through the change, all of the trials and messes that come with, to make it over to your new path. Everyone’s process or bridge is a different size and style depending on what type of process or change they have to go through. Yours might be a dark tunnel with no windows. Maybe yours is more of a pedway with glass sides. It’s possible that yours could be a simple crossing bridge.
I would say that most everyone’s bridge will change throughout the process. The very beginning is going to look a lot different than closer to the end. The beginning can be pretty dark with no end in sight. A lot of times we feel hopeless asking ourselves why we even started this but with enough perserverance, consistency, and grace we begin to see the light.
There is no manual for this path because YOU are paving it how YOU need.
This is YOUR path!
You have ONE life!